“What is wrong with me” – Overcoming shame Shame – the feeling and belief that there is something innately wrong with us. This is one of the lowest emotional states to be in. In this article, I explain to you how shame comes into our lives and what we can do to overcome and release it for good. The full article can be found in the Elephant Journal (link).
Empathy is a gift – not a burden How you can cultivate and utilize your gift As an empath, you can do much more than just perceive other people’s emotions. In this article, I will show you how to fully utilize the power of your gift. I am talking about how to learn to control your gift, how to reduce the negative side effects of your empathy, and how to utilize it for your own benefit and the benefit of others. The full article can be found in the Elephant Journal (link).
This was the second year in a row that I did not spend Christmas with my family. In fact, I spent it all by myself. And even though I did enjoy most of the time there was also a lot of shame and guilt coming up. Shame and guilt about the fact that I have not been in touch with my family for a long time. That I did not try hard enough to find a way of spending time with them for Christmas in particular; but instead, choosing to abandon them knowing they were suffering from it. Just ducklings everywhere Many years ago, I read a … Keep reading
Have you ever wondered why nobody was there when you needed support the most? Have you ever experienced somebody else reaping the benefits from something you came up with? Did you feel your needs mattered to the people around you or was it more like everyone else seemed to matter more than you do? For me, the answer to those questions was a big YES. Only during the past number of years, could I understand why and then finally change this painful pattern that had been for almost my entire life. When I was young, I was what I would call an invisible child. The low maintenance daughter … Keep reading
When you are practicing any kind of inner work you do this because of the benefits you expect or experience from it. And indeed, inner work, particularly shadow work is a powerful tool to expand our awareness, to release emotional blocks, to resolve old detrimental patterns and to shift our entire reality. However, we probably all know these moments of frustration when we feel stuck. When the same old stuff seems to show up repeatedly, no matter how often we may have dealt with it already. Today, I want to share with you why we tend to feel stuck when we have truly changed and have already expanded … Keep reading
As empaths we feel what others feel. We feel the inner struggles of our loved ones, the suppressed anger of our co-workers and the distress of the people in public places. And most often we are so used to feeing all of this that we do not even recognize we are doing it. This just seems and the way we function. We appear to live a life at the mercy of everyone else’s emotions. Is empathy congenital? I believe, even though we came in particularly sensitive, many of us unconsciously cultivated that trait because it served us to get our needs met or to make us feel … Keep reading
For me, as a life coach and Completion Process facilitator it is a basic understanding that presence is key for healing our emotional wounds. But how do we apply this to our everyday life? How much presence can we expect from our partner, family members and friends? This is a question that I have been asking myself a lot lately. No one without shadow We all have aspects of our self that are not fully conscious, that have been split off and moved to the subconscious during an emotionally challenging situation in order for us to be able move on beyond that experience. These aspects are frozen … Keep reading
Most people that I have met who call themselves an empath, have done this from a place of victimhood. They tend to use the word to explain, underpin and validate their own suffering. While I can understand very well how painful and draining it can be to feel and perceive so much, I do not believe it has to be this way. Society teaches us that we need to be less sensitive to function properly. We are being told that expressing our emotions is a sign of weakness. And often we, as empaths, take on that perspective and accept this projection to be real. We start to feel … Keep reading
For almost my entire adult life, I would feel down after meeting with my family of origin. Every time I came back, I would feel like there was something wrong with me. I felt weak and somehow broken, like I could not function in this world the way I was supposed to. It took me years to understand what had been going on and to break that pattern. In the beginning, I thought I was just being too sensitive to their energies, and that I would be fine if I just protected myself enough from it. So, I started testing various ways of energetic protection when meeting with … Keep reading